Mirror mirror on the wall who is the fairest one of all? If your inner voice does not come back loud and clear with your name then this is the blog for you! This is not a post about vanity (I have one of those already, Healthy VS. Unhealthy Vanity) this is a post about self love. Loving yourself inside and out regardless of your past, regardless of your physical and emotional imperfections.
This won’t come as a surprise but we all have imperfections, we have all made mistakes and we all fall short of our own expectations. The issue isn’t in admitting fault, the issue is in marking our identity with permanent marker drawn by those faults. When you look in the mirror is that what you are doing?
Are you staring back at the reflection of a flawed mess up? When this is our mindset we start to wonder why we are so faulted and why bad things continue to surround our existence. I am a firm believer that we manifest what we believe about ourselves. If we look back at our reflections with the black marks of mistakes then this is what we continue to concentrate on. If this is what we think about then this is what continues to happen in our lives. It’s a vicious cycle.
If this feels like a far away and non achievable concept because your self esteem is terminally ill then this is the time to reach out for help. Help from a professional or even help from a friend who can speak life back into you. In order to believe you are the fairest of them all you must first forgive yourself for your imperfections.
The difference between a person with a high self image and one with a low self esteem is simply a persons ability to learn the lessons our mistakes teach us. Learning the lesson then allows us to forgive ourselves and grow. We know we have not learned the lesson if we continue to make the same mistake and put ourselves down as a form of self punishment. The lesson is learned when we accept our responsibility, grow through the pain and gain further understanding of ourselves.
So the next time you look in the mirror ask yourself who is the fairest of them all. If you don’t like the person glaring back at you take the opportunity to do some self work, self discovery and reflection. Growth can be painful and hard but leaving things unhealthy will cause residual damage that can last a life-time if not addressed. As always if you are looking for someone to walk beside you on your journey to healing visit Beach Therapy at mybeachtherapy.net .
